The deepest hatred grows out of broken love…

‘The deepest hatred grows out of broken love….To have to recognise that a deep love- and not only a sexual love-was an error, a failure of intuition, so compromises us before ourselves, so splits the security and unity of our self -conception, that we are unavoidably made the object of this intolerable feeling pay for…

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It’s the start of a new month

It’s the start of a new month, and I cannot believe its autumn already. Over the last couple of weeks we have looked at what mediation is and why it works . To look at this again Mediation is a process to resolve disputes where a mediator (third party) supports parties in conflict to have…

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My journey to becoming a Family Mediator is a personal one

My journey to becoming a Family Mediator is a personal one, It’s been a long and windy road and in some ways I wish I understood what mediation was sooner in my life. As a very wise person (my dad)  often said to me (and obviously with youth I didn’t believe him) ‘with age comes…

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Maintaining Children’s Attachments

After separation, the parent who leaves often worries that they will lose contact with the children and is resolute to spend vast volumes of time with them on a consistent basis. If at this stage there is not co-operation between the resident parent , the non-resident parent maybe restricted to a negligible role in the…

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Myrelationshipbreakdown.com for family……

Assumptions cause conflict, families make assumptions, Differing values can lead to conflict, Differences in the way you were brought up can result in conflict. Differing expectations can lead to conflict. Knowledge and ability to deal with conflict can result in conflict.   When we think of our family of origin how does that reflect on…

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Voice of the child

Mediation can help parents focus on the voice of the child within the separation/divorce process. When parents (ex-partners) are feeling betrayed and disappointed at the loss of the marital relationship it can be hard to focus on the needs of children. It is vitally important to remember that children suffer the loss of the family…

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For the sake of the children……….

And so Christmas is over, Santa has called and it’s back to reality.  What does this mean for the family staying together for the sake of the children? “ Monday, December 26, 2016 More than 1,000 children contacted Childline on Christmas Day. The ISPCC say some kids contacted them as they were finding Christmas tough…

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The First Christmas……….After Family Breakdown……

Traditionally at this point mediation services are quiet due to parents in this instance  attempting to keep relationships together for ‘the sake of the children’  Christmas is such an emotional time for families The first Christmas after family breakdown and separation will be an exceptionally emotive time for parents and children , all for different…

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Mediation, Cost, Time and Success Factors to Consider……………………….

A challenged separation or divorce can cost anything from €8,000 upwards; mediation can cost less than €1,000, plus the cost of legal ratification. The National Audit Office Report ‘Legal Aid and Mediation for People involved in Family Breakdown’ (2007)- report based in England, states that Mediated Cases are faster to resolve, than non- Mediated cases.…

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Benefits of including children in the mediation process

Mediation gives children the chance to see the mediator unaccompanied to talk about their feelings and fears, without being uneasy, and how parents will receive that information. Most of the children involved in mediation say that it has aided them. The Mediator who will have specific training will be able to explain the process and…

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